Saturday, January 2, 2010
Advocate for Fugitive Mom Deletes Ex-Gay Blog
Advocate for Fugitive Mom Deletes Ex-Gay Blog - discovered by LezGetReal. Melanie Nathan, followed up with humane appeal http://ow.ly/Sapd
New Name for My Blog - Same Interests, Dedication and Passion for LGBT Issues
Happy 2010!!
I want to assure you that although I've changed the name of my blog, my interest, dedication and passion for lgbt issues remains.
I hope to become much more active in posting this year and appreciate your interest and patience.
Peace.
Debra
I want to assure you that although I've changed the name of my blog, my interest, dedication and passion for lgbt issues remains.
I hope to become much more active in posting this year and appreciate your interest and patience.
Peace.
Debra
Wednesday, November 18, 2009
Chapter 2. . .it's the cunning twisting of reality that hurts most.
So, I re-read my post of 11/08/09 and thought a word or two in follow-up might be needed. . .?
Domestic violence and child abuse.
Without a doubt, the physical pain was unbearable at times. But what it did to my mind was most devastating.
The revision of events by the abuser in aid of justification:
It was all my fault.
It took me years to even touch that pain.
Domestic violence and child abuse.
Without a doubt, the physical pain was unbearable at times. But what it did to my mind was most devastating.
The revision of events by the abuser in aid of justification:
It was all my fault.
It took me years to even touch that pain.
Sunday, November 8, 2009
. . .it's the cunning twisting of reality that hurts most.
When I broke the silence, I broke the rules.
I was shamed for sharing what was real. For being a "victim."
That hurts more than the physical pain from being hit.
It is truly the ultimate mindfuck.
I was shamed for sharing what was real. For being a "victim."
That hurts more than the physical pain from being hit.
It is truly the ultimate mindfuck.
Saturday, October 17, 2009
Who Decides the Goal for Mediation?
As a mediator dedicated to the concept of self-determination, I facilitate communication between people. When I overstep that role, I risk becoming attached to the outcome.
The outcome – whether it leads to resolution or not – belongs to the parties.
It is my honor to be a part of the process, but the outcome is not mine to own.
The outcome – whether it leads to resolution or not – belongs to the parties.
It is my honor to be a part of the process, but the outcome is not mine to own.
Saturday, August 29, 2009
President Obama: Assumptions, Expectations and the Law of Unexpected Consequences
Assumption: an hypothesis that is taken for granted.
Expectation: a prospect of future good.
The Law of Unintended Consequences: any purposeful action will produce some unanticipated or unintended consequences.
Example:
Assumption: Barack Obama's nomination was a sign of hope, a sign of change, a sign of possible enlightenment.
Expectation: If Barack Obama is elected as President, the results can only be positive.
The Unanticipated/Unintended Consequences: The incredible emergence of fear/conflict and destructive reactions to both that have followed President Obama's election to office.
I act like I'm surprised. Like I can't understand how this could possibly happen.
Yet - what is one of the most powerful sources of fear?
Change.
And, how do we react to change - especially when provoked to believe change may result in not getting our basic needs met or that our identity - who we are - is threatened?
Fear.
The basic reactions to fear: fight or flight.
When we feel backed into a corner, left with no way out, feeling that survival of our very identity is at stake, we will resist/fight with every ounce of strength we have.
If we understand this, we will respond to this reaction with empathy.
Expectation: a prospect of future good.
The Law of Unintended Consequences: any purposeful action will produce some unanticipated or unintended consequences.
Example:
Assumption: Barack Obama's nomination was a sign of hope, a sign of change, a sign of possible enlightenment.
Expectation: If Barack Obama is elected as President, the results can only be positive.
The Unanticipated/Unintended Consequences: The incredible emergence of fear/conflict and destructive reactions to both that have followed President Obama's election to office.
I act like I'm surprised. Like I can't understand how this could possibly happen.
Yet - what is one of the most powerful sources of fear?
Change.
And, how do we react to change - especially when provoked to believe change may result in not getting our basic needs met or that our identity - who we are - is threatened?
Fear.
The basic reactions to fear: fight or flight.
When we feel backed into a corner, left with no way out, feeling that survival of our very identity is at stake, we will resist/fight with every ounce of strength we have.
If we understand this, we will respond to this reaction with empathy.
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